This is a key to my grandad’s house. After he moved into a home my mum asked me to put it through the door of his old house, but 15 year old me decided not to…(there were others – don’t worry 🤣) I couldn’t bring myself to part with it, maybe because it has his handwriting, maybe I didn’t want to lose that connection.
My grandad passed away not long afterward and I miss him every day. He was a remarkable person and a huge part of who I am today. If ever I am struggling I think about what he’d do in my shoes, and hear him say to me ‘Now Charlotte, these things are sent to try us!’
This key has come everywhere with me for the last 20 years, it’s been in every handbag I’ve owned, on every holiday I’ve been on and to hospital with me for the birth of all three of my children. He would have loved my children so much. It might sound weird, but having this old worn key, with his key ring and handwriting, brings me so much comfort and strength.
Having things that are meaningful around you during labour can really help you if things get challenging, as sometimes they do. It’s true that lights and blankets and candles etc are wonderful, but if you have something if your life that brings you some strength or evokes happy memories, consider having that with you too. Labour is an intense physical, emotional and even spiritual journey and something that holds a value and brings you strength can make a real difference if you really need to dig deep and use all your reserves to bring your baby to you.
This key and the memories it brings have helped me through some times of struggle and anxiety, and hopefully will do so for many years to come. I’m so glad I rebelled and didn’t put it through the letterbox!
Do you have something that brings you comfort or evokes happy memories? Did you, or do you plan to have it with you in labour? I’d love to know if you’d like to share. Sending you all love, Charlotte xxx
PS I also still have my grandad’s old colander and use it almost every day, but I don’t keep that in my handbag